Since God exiled Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden, work has been understood as burdensome toil. Though the nature of work has changed over the centuries, our conception of work has largely remained the same since the Bible. Both the 19th century factory worker and the 20th century accountant understood work as a necessary evil: if they wanted roofs over their heads and food on their tables, they had to work, whether that be for 12 backbreaking hours a day in the wretched conditions of a soot-covered textile mill or for 40 hours a week staring at a screen in the mind-numbing monotony of a cubicle. As positive psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi observed in his groundbreaking Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, we view work as “an imposition, a constraint, an infringement of our freedom, and therefore something to be avoided as much as possible.”
But though the majority of us consider work drudgery, a job can be more than an obligatory occupation done to pay the bills: it can be an act of service, a demonstration of our deepest convictions, an expression of our truest selves.
In his timeless classic The Prophet, poet, painter, and philosopher Kahlil Gibran argues we should reframe our attitude toward work. Why? Because when we dread Monday mornings at the office, when we spend our days shooting crumbled paper into trash cans and bitterly composing what we think are pointless emails, work feels futile. But when we work with love and devoted attention, when we connect what we do to a higher meaning, our labor— and our lives— seem more worthwhile:
“And all work is empty save when there
is love;
And when you work with love you bind
yourself to yourself, and to one another,
and to God.”
What, exactly, does it mean to work with love? For Gibran, working with love is working with a lover’s tenderness and an artist’s attention. Rather than hurry through mundane tasks, we should treat the commonplace chores of life as if they were consecrated. If we’re washing dishes at a restaurant, we should scrub each dish as if it were to be the place setting for a glorious banquet held in our significant other’s honor. If we’re brewing coffee as a barista, we should prepare each cappuccino as if it were a hand-crafted indulgence for our lover. And if we’re at our 9-to-5 office job, we should act as if we’re writing an expressive, heartfelt letter to our beloved— not just another humdrum email. As Gibran writes, working with love is:
“…to weave the cloth with threads
drawn from your heart, even as if your
beloved were to wear that cloth.
It is to build a house with affection, even
as if your beloved were to dwell in that
house.
It is to sow seeds with tenderness and reap
the harvest with joy, even as if your beloved
were to eat the fruit.
It is to charge all things you fashion with
a breath of your own spirit.”
Labor can be a poignant expression of love. Through our work, we serve our fellow man: the farmer sows the seeds and reaps the harvest that feeds nations, the doctor heals the wounded and tends to the sick. Yet most of us begrudge work. Take a school teacher who views herself as a glorified babysitter. She loathes writing lesson plans and resents every Saturday night she has to decline an invitation to grade midterms. Eventually her students get the sense that she doesn’t care and they stop caring altogether. They read her perfunctory comments scribbled in embittered red ink on their terms papers and— rather than really reflect on how they can do better— only put forth the bare minimum of effort on their next paper. After all, why would they want to learn the Pythagorean theorem or Einstein’s theory of relativity, why would they devote the time and energy required to memorizing their timetables or composing a beautifully-crafted, logically sound essay, if their own teacher obsessively monitors the minutes until class is over? In some of the 20th century’s most breathtakingly beautiful prose, Gibran asserts bitterness transforms what could be a noble act of service into obligatory, much despised labor:
“For if you bake bread with indifference,
you bake a bitter bread that feeds but half
man’s hunger.
And if you grudge the crushing of the
grapes, your grudge distills a poison in the
wine.
And if you sing though as angels, and
love not the singing, you muffle man’s ears
to the voices of the day and the voice of
the night.”
For more of Gibran’s enduring wisdom, contemplate his lovely meditations on joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, and love as our most demanding work.
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